Essential – and Simple – Lessons from my Dad
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When I think about the lessons my father has taught me, there’s an interesting thing to note: while my dad was a big believer in the power of teaching, many of the pivotal, indelible lessons were ones that I gleaned by observation. In other words, there are the lessons that my dad consciously sought to teach me, and then there are the ones that he taught me just by being who he was. Both types of lessons had merit; both types of lessons left their mark and helped mould me into the person I am today. Both types of lessons continue to inspire me in the work that I do and the life that I lead.
My personal sense is that my dad has done – and continues to do – a great job of teaching me what I need to know, simply by being who he is. I’m not sure if he’s conscious of this or not. And it doesn’t matter. It’s effective.
Is It Time to Redefine Some Boundaries?
Leaders have a lot to do. Leaders hold positions of responsibility. In many cases, being in leadership requires you to deliver results, which means that the buck stops with you.
In light of all of this, it can be really easy – and perhaps understandable – for leaders to focus on the inevitable “to-do” list. What are the tasks that need to be done?
Some leaders tend to these tasks themselves. Others have mastered the art of delegation. Many are skilled at both.
Given the number of tasks and responsibilities that fall on a leader’s plate, it can be easy to think that leadership is solely about getting things done. Moreover, it’s easy to fall into the trap of believing that leadership is about HOW you get things done.
Simple Strategies for Telling the Hard Truth
Okay, let me be the first to say it: this is not the first time I’ve written about boundaries. I’ve done it before; I’ll probably do it again. Because the topic of boundaries is one that KEEPS COMING UP.
We all know that there is something very powerful in setting and honoring boundaries. It is also pretty common knowledge that having and honoring such boundaries makes for healthy relationships and clearly defined roles and responsibilities, in all contexts. That being said, there are a few slippery slopes that exist around boundaries; if you’re not careful, it can be really easy to slip down any of those slopes, and find yourself in a blur of boundary-less oblivion.
So, let me take a minute – or two or three – to point out some of the things that may be eroding at your ability to work with boundaries effectively.
5 Strategies for Moving Through Times of Uncertainty
When it comes to honesty, human foibles and fears combined with a very real desire to keep things comfortable can inhibit the best communicative exchanges.
You likely don’t need to think too hard to recall a time when you needed to tell someone something, and you found yourself holding back. Having called to mind the situation, ask yourself this: what was getting in the way of your truth-telling?
Uncertainty. I’ve experienced a bit of it lately. Actually, if I’m really truthful, I’ve experienced a LOT of it lately. There have been several curve balls that have thrown my world as I know it into a tizzy.
I know that I am not alone in experiencing uncertainty. Everyone faces uncertainty from time to time; it happens, it can look a lot of different ways, and it can stem from a variety of situations.
Sometimes, uncertainty arises slowly, creeping up on you, giving subtle warning signs that things are shifting, but not really alarming you along the way. At other times, uncertainty can blindside you; you’re moving along, thinking that all is tickity-boo and then, WHAM! All of a sudden you’re completely disoriented and asking yourself, “what do I do now?”