Life Balance? Forget About It!
I know. Sounds like a bizarre title for someone who’s the go-to-expert on life balance, eh? But I’m not kidding. I really do want you to forget all that you think you know about life balance. Because what you know is what’s stopping you from actually having a sense of it.
You see, somewhere along the way the notion of balance got put forth and interpreted as “equality” — equality of time, taking your 24 hours and dividing it equally amongst home and work. But let me tell you, that’s not balance. That’s a recipe for disaster. Why? Because it’s not actually how life works. Life is not about equality. To paraphrase a favourite classroom mantra, “Balance in the context of life does not mean that all areas of life get equal time; instead balance means that all areas get the amount of time they need.”
So, what determines what areas of life need which amount of time? It boils down to values my friend. Anyway you slice it, you’ve got to know your values, you’ve got to know what matters to you, you’ve got to know what you’re about and what you’re striving to create, and then you’ve got to allocate your time in such a way that at the end of the day, you can honestly say that you spent your time on the stuff that matters to you. That’s life balance.
Bottom-line: it you’re searching for balance, if you feel off-kilter, it means you’ve lost your sense of purpose; you’re probably trying to do what someone else believes is important for you. Ditch what’s important to them and reclaim what’s important to you. That’s the way to fill your life with true balance.
If you want to learn more, join me for one or all of the sessions in the Life Balance Luncheon Series! 1st session is tomorrow, 12 noon, the Lotus Centre, 140 Ann Street, London, ON. $30 well spent! Email me for deets gail@stellarcc.com.
[...] This post was mentioned on Twitter by Gail Barker, LifeinBalanceinfo. LifeinBalanceinfo said: Life Balance? Forget About It! | Stellar Coaching and Consulting http://bit.ly/b4skhp [...]