Breakin’ Out of Loneliness
One of the patterns I’ve de veloped over the years — and a pattern that I see mirrored out there in the world at large — is that of making myself (or yourself, as the case may be) alone. Which, of course, leads to a sense of loneliness, a feeling of isolation and lack of support.
The interesting thing about this particular pattern is that, from what I can tell, it really doesn’t serve anyone well. Don’t get me wrong; taking time for one’s self can be a very good thing. But when you take time for yourself, you’re not isolation yourself from humanity and withdrawing into a self-imposed cell of solitary confinement. Taking time for yourself is a way to rejuvenate and re-energize. Making yourself alone, however, is simply a way of reinforcing a far-from-true story that you are somehow alone in this world.
Here’s what I know for sure: no matter who you are, there are people around who are ready, able and WILLING to help. All you need to do is ask. Even when you don’t know who you might possibly ask, ask anyway. Somebody will pop out of the woodwork. And then you will reconnect with your natural state of being — connected to others. Because as a human being, you are not meant to operate in isolation or loneliness. So break the pattern; lean into humanity. It’s what I’m doing. And it’s making a big difference.
I have to push myself to socilaize sometime. I easily find myself going into isolation at times. I enjoy it for awhile, but it always leads into feelings of isolation and decreased self-confidence. Thanks for the great reminders.
I hear you Heather, and you’re right, on all accounts. While it can feel like you need to push yourself to socialize, it’s important to note that it’s less about socializing and more about gathering strength from the energy of connection. And in this world of virtual connection, leaning in for real, face-to-face or voice-to-voice connection can be especially challenging — but it’s oh-so-necessary. Thanks for sharing!