Self-care or Being Selfish: Can You Tell the Difference?

The second of this month’s podcast segments was released today, and it deals with this very topic.  Which is probably why I’m feeling called to write a bit about it here.  Truthfully, it’s a very relevant and timely topic for so many people.  In the hustle and bustle of our modern-day world, the need for self-care and nurture is in some ways increasing.  That being said, so many people don’t allow themselves the opportunity to engage in self-care activities, and one of the reasons for this self-neglect is the belief that caring for one’s self is SELFISH.  What a crock.

The difference lies in intention.  The actual actions involved might be the same, but the self-care perspective has a different underlying intention than the selfish one.  You see, when you’re being selfish, you’re entirely focused on your self, by definition.  The actions you choose are  based purely on how YOU will benefit; there’s no thought or idea that others might somehow benefit as well. Self-care, however, differs in that while you may be aware of an initial self-based payoff, you’re simultaneously aware that the payoff extends beyond you.  In otherwords, when you take care of yourself, you’re in turn able to take care of others.

Bottom-line: self-care is an essential part of being able to function effectively in the world.  Regardless of your occupation, relationship status, age or gender, engaging in activities that nurture yourself — mind, body and spirit — is integral to your overall health and your ability to be present for the things you need to do, or the people you need to be with.  As the modern-day phrase goes, “If momma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.”  So, make sure you’re taking steps to be happy.  Engage in a little self-care.

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